My voice is not a burden—it’s a bridge.

No, you're not rambling; you’re just making more sense of the story you want to share in the session.

However, many clients feel that they may not be getting the most out of the session because they have so many thoughts to make sense of. From one thought to another, so many pressing things weigh on their mind, and then they feel like they are all over the place.

I am thankful when my clients feel comfortable talking to me about their lives, and various factors come into play. However, sometimes, as they are processing their story, they say, 'I feel like I am rambling,' which can be perceived as a negative. Don't forget that, although specific components of therapy require structure, there will be moments when you feel led to express yourself. 

Guess what? Ramble away, because there are so many words that you are saying that will provide the answers that you need to improve your life, but that's what therapy can help you with. Being able to understand what your words mean, how those words will get you in a better place in your life, and how you can separate the information so that you have more context.

The rambling gives insight to the therapist; it helps us out for a few reasons:

A seasoned therapist will be able to process through the rambling" to help you understand what you are trying to say.

A seasoned therapist can reflect and summarize some of the areas you are discussing, because when you hear those words expressed back to you, they gain more power.

Try not to see the rambling as a negative; the more that is being said, the more we can truly start to help you bring forth the story you truly want to share.

The rambling can be a great way to establish a foundation for understanding where to start with the process, but once you continue, clarity will begin; you'll be able to understand your language more effectively, and your therapist will be able to help you along the way.

Embrace the ramble.