Healing is a rhythm, not a script.

I believe that people only see therapy done in one manner, and it deters them from seeking the support they actually need.

I don’t know if I should go to therapy because I don’t like to talk about my feelings; it’s something I wouldn’t do in my typical environment, so what makes me feel like I would do that with a stranger?

Those statements are valid and mirrored by alot of people who are hesitant to go based on their preconceived ideas related to the construct of therapy. It’s a little different compared to talking with a random person you might meet, because you probably wouldn’t see them again, versus coming to talk with a therapist more consistently.

I think the things people don’t talk about is that the art of therapy is very intentionally related to the nature of how a client is putting the pieces of their life together; the questions that the therapist is asking, and figuring out how to construct this conversation that feels so emotionally fueled, and deeply felt.

It’s a beautiful thing to be in a space as a client with a therapist who understands where you’re coming from, but you also have to figure out what’s going to work for you in the space of therapy.

Sometimes talking may take time, or you may always be a person with few words, even if you feel intensely about the world around you.

That’s okay, but a therapist is meant to work with you based on where you are and what is in your best interest. I often tell my clients, “Let me know how we can make the space work for you, " which would make them feel more comfortable opening up. The question alone can be a full session, as the therapist is gaining a feeling of what the client may need, but can’t fully articulate what that may look like yet.

When connecting with the right therapist, they will craft therapy in a way that helps you utilize the things that are already providing a sense of safety, and helps you shake off some of those jitters that come along with having to talk about feelings.